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Summer of fun

I was going to start by saying I’ve been a bad blogger as haven’t blogged for ages and what’s the point of having a blog if you never write anything….but then Barren Betty got there first and said all that earlier this week. Yeah, thanks for stealing my thunder BB.

Sooo anyway…where have I been? I’ve been bloody busy doing a million things that’s where! Organising bits and pieces for the wedding, booking a honeymoon (Sri Lanka- eeek!) and, well, getting drunk a fair bit too.

Last time I left you on a cliff-hanger (well, more like on the side of a low ledge) as I had my WTF appointment the next day. And as predicted it was more of “we don’t know why it didn’t work, you should try again, it should work at some point!” Well ‘should’ is all well and good but so far it just doesn’t and it’s all getting rather expensive, not to mention fucking heartbreakingly awful. Basically, we’ve tried every trick they have, so we should just repeat…but honestly, after 4 failures how can it work? Surely it’s just that they don’t know what the problem is, not that there’s not a problem?

DH and I have decided to give the whole IVF gig a rest for the year. We’re getting married in October and going on honeymoon over Christmas so we’re just going to ‘forget about it’ (yeah, right) for the rest of the year and see where we are and how we feel in the New Year.

Instead we’re going to have a ‘summer of fun’. We’re going to drink, we’re going to eat, we’re going to visit loads of places we say we’re going to but never do. We’re going to get our lives back again. And I have to say I’m rather excited about it.

And yes, I still get miserable, and yes I have days where the pain just stabs me in the heart and the god-awful realisation that this really, really might never happen kicks me in the tits, but I’m determined to enjoy this year.

So far we’ve been doing pretty well – we’ve been for a walk along Regents canal….

Little Venice

Little Venice

Although IF is still never far from our minds – this was DH’s wish on a ‘before I die’ chalk board by the canal:

before I die

We walked up to the top of Primrose Hill before going for a lovely Greek dinner at Lemonia (where John Torode from Masterchef was having lunch too!)

Primrose Hill

Primrose Hill


There have also been rather a lot of cocktails…..some up high….

View from the Shard

View from the Shard loos!

And some in posh hotels with lovely Twitter girls…


And this is pretty much my plan for the summer…drinking cocktails and having fun (and definitely not being heartbroken and empty)! Fuck you IF. Fuck you.

17 thoughts on “Summer of fun

  1. Good on you sweetheart. I did exactly the same thing after my failed cycle. I had a Summer off and proper LIVED. It helps you put things into perspective and even to some extent made me feel like life could be good even if children were not going to happen for us. I was in a much better place when I went back for my next cycle, I refused to obsess about ANYTHING. And of course, it ended well, but at least I wanted to feel that I’d not wasted yet more time moping, feeling sorry for myself, hating anyone who was pregnant and not being able to have a drink or go on holiday… Or generally putting my life on hold. Like the great John Lennon said, ‘life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans’. xx

  2. Your pictures are gorgeous! I hope you have a great summer and rest of the year. It’s sounds like it will be busy with a wedding and fun honeymoon 🙂

  3. That sounds like a very exciting rest of the year to me!! I also took time off when I got married and then went on honeymoon at Christmas. It was fantastic!
    I love your pictures and I am so happy to read this cheerful post. I know it’s still tough some days but you are so strong and wonderful for facing it all with a smile.
    hope you’ll carry on sharing pictures of your fun trips!xx

  4. Hi, I think you’re absolutely doing the right thing. We had a failed cycle in Feb 10 and we decided to take the rest of the year off and get married. I kind of felt like when were we ever going to get married as we kept putting it off ‘in case’ we got pregnant. It’s such a fun time and really takes over your life so you don’t really have much time to think about IVF. And once the honeymoon was over, I felt so well and truly ready to start again, and so positive about it all! Although I then had to take another year off due to smear complications. So we had our summer of fun that year. A lot of alcohol, a girly holiday etc. And once again I felt so so ready to do IVF when the time came. Take the time off, have an amazing wedding and honeymoon, let your head clear and come back fighting fit, positive and truly ready to kick ivf’s ass!!! Xxx

  5. Oh dear… Sorry about that!! I am definitely with you on the summer of fun part too. Bring on the cocktails, late nights, weekend always and sunny pub gardens!!! xxx

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